Tears were flowing down both of our faces that night. It was around 1am, but the conversation had begun hours before at a party with some of our friends and business partners.
A conversation about worthiness, caring, and love.
Let me clarify by saying that this was a conversation between friends, and that these tears, while not exactly of joy, were definitely of the positive variety.
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The beautiful note that we hit on that night was the very important distinction and correlation between self-worth and self-care.
Imagine with me for a moment two different women:
I know you’re familiar with at least one woman who values the crap out of herself. She’s put together, she walks her talk, and she knows that she is worth it.
Give her a task and she’s on it. She doesn’t need a man around because she is independent, fierce, and could literally rule the world with her power and grace.
I don’t know about you, but I can picture hundreds of these women in my life. I’m so grateful to have them as an example of the ferocity and power of women.
Now, picture a woman you know who takes exquisite care of herself.
She asks for help when she needs it because she knows that alone we can only get so far. She spends blocks of time doing whatever she feels called to do, because she knows that when life is more joy-filled, everyone wins.
I can think of a handful of women I know who truly put themselves first and who make sure their needs are met through loving self care. I am grateful for their example of loving and sensual femininity.
At first, these women may seem like one in the same.
But as my friend and I realized that night, they’re totally not. One is actually much more centered in her masculine, while the other is centered in her feminine. You probably know which is which.
This is not to say that either way is bad – in fact, through our conversation I came to realize that the best way of being is to combine them both.
See, when we value ourselves and realize that we’re worth it to undertake certain actions or lifestyle changes, it doesn’t mean that we’re acting with caring and love.
I’m picturing the woman who is totally badass and raising kids, and realizes that she is worth the time and energy to exercise and eat well.
The woman who smashes the glass ceiling and out-earns her male counterparts because she is freaking valuable to the company and knows it.
And when we step back and realize that we need to treat ourselves well, relax, and listen to our needs, it doesn’t mean that we’re acting in full self confidence.
This is the woman who is constantly searching for the next level of personal development and self help. She takes time for herself but still doesn’t seem to be getting anywhere.
The woman who indulges in luxury and pleasure in her life, but doesn’t see the translation in income or physical results. She retreats into her cocoon of self care.
[bctt tweet=”The most powerful place to live from is combining the two: self worth and self care.”]
Because guess what…
Inside of all of us, men, women, children, teens, trans, no matter our sexual preference or gender, no matter or political leanings or social activism, lives both the feminine and masculine approaches to life.
And we realized that night that leading with one and ignoring the other is not an option if you want to live the full expression of yourself.
So think about it and ask yourself:
- Do you truly value what you bring to the table? Are you under earning, undercharging, or settling for less than you’re worth in your career, relationships, or joy?
- Do you truly make your self care a priority? Are you ignoring your health? Do you skip washing your face or eating a nice meal because you’re “too busy”?
I’d love to know, which area do you think you could strengthen… your self worth or self care? Let me know in the comments below!
If this has made you realize that either of these need to become more of a priority in your life, I invite you to check out the She’s Got Guts Experience. Enrollment opens on October 1st, but by joining the She’s Got Guts Community now you’ll get a special sneak peek.
In this 4-week program we are going to cover both of these in depth. The women who have come out of this program say that they feel much more aligned with their purpose, are more in touch with their intuition, feel ready to eat and be healthier, and have the support to practice self care with their new sense of self worth.
Here’s to you & bringing together the masculine and feminine!
Laura
